Are You Cracking The Whip?

When it comes to discipline, sometimes life takes over, and before you know it  

Discipline goes out the window with today’s modern distractions, along with the normal distractions in life; getting things done that are important can often take a back seat.

I was talking with a friend of mine last night, and recently, there have been a lot of changes in my life, which at the time seemed very bad, but I am also seeing the good in them

Anyway, I was talking to my friend about when my dad died in 2009. I was in mourning, it made me feel very mortal, and as I was quite a bit overweight at the time, I stopped eating for 7 days.

After my dad died, I went to see him in the funeral home. His head was freezing like a stone. I went beside him for a couple of hours, and I said all the things I could think of that I wanted to say to him.

There were a lot of things I never thought about, as I had no idea my dad was going to die a month before, even though I had a premonition of his coffin at an NLP event three months previously, I forgot about it after that day.

It really helped me to tell him all the stuff I wanted to say, and I would recommend it to anyone to make sure they say everything they feel they missed out saying while their loved one was alive, because you never know the minute someone may die on you.

I had no idea that we had already had

Our last holiday together when I was 13

Our last dinner together was a week before he was taken to  the hospital

The last time he would have one of my sons on his lap

The last time I would drive around my hometown, Bangor, and pass by him in the car, and stop and chat

The last time we lived in a house together

The last time I was moving house, he came and helped me move my furniture

The last time we would tile a bathroom together or work in one of his Greek restaurants.

 

Getting back to my conversation with my friend, I discussed that for me I realised when I stopped eating for a week that I had so much more time, I couldn’t put the day in.

I realised before I stopped eating, I maybe would have spent a couple of hours in the supermarket shopping for food, then a couple of hours cooking and preparing the family meal, then you needed to clean up afterwards, though I have to be honest and say my wife did this part. So it didn’t eat into my time, and then after all that, you may spend 20 mins to an hour at the table eating your food as well.

So that could be 6 to 8 hours of your day around cooking and eating, and so far, I have only talked about one meal here.

Not breakfast, lunch, dinner, and supper like some people normally have.

 

Other major life distractions and time suckers.

Family chores lift in the car to and from places

Taking kids to school birthday parties, etc

Taking my wife to her work or her friend’s house.

Spending time with your wife/family, etc.

Of course, also the time spent on your work or business.

When you take all these things into consideration, it’s not hard to believe that sometimes it is hard to get time to think or plan out your life to make it better.

So when my wife and I got divorced a couple of weeks ago and she went to Bulgaria apart from the loss and thought of your 22-year marriage ending, I realised I have now got so much time to think and plan, and do new things that I didn’t used to even have the time to dream of doing.

The last week or two, I have been making lists of things that I want and need to get done, and have been doing loads as I am writing this content. I am in a weekly writing class, and the lady who runs it said the guy helping her doing her video course is cracking the whip to get her to finish it as it has to be completed by next week. 

What it makes me realise for change to take place and better things to happen, you need to get started and crack the whip too.

Hold yourself accountable, make a list and get things done, cut out social media, Netflix, Amazon Prime Video, and get things done, and stop wasting all your valuable, precious time

If you want to write a daily to-do list, I recommend using Google Task Manager on your phone or desktop, or Evernote, or something like that

If you are doing these tasks yourself, you may not have anyone to crack the whip at you so you will need to do it yourself.

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